Disappointment...

The word Disappointment is often misunderstood, or misused. The word traces back to Middle English in the way of Old French (15th. Century) "desapointer" meaning to (Remove from office) ...

The adapted definition is as follows,

Disappointment- The feeling of dissatisfaction that follows the failure of expectations or hopes to manifest.

Through out life, I can recall using this word, to describe the following:

• Failure
• Things that didn't go as planned
• Other people's wrong doing(s)
• People's opinions of what I do, that is not accepted.
• The different
• Seemingly expected results, that many people experienced, except me.
• Leaders
• Followers
• Love
• Friendships
• School grades
• Society
• Myself
• and many more......

That being said, I can say that, without breaking down the things that I found disappointing in life, and understanding why these can be disappointing, I may never have understood the true value of this word, and most importantly, how much we can overuse the term, both mentally and verbally.

It has been running through my head to break this down for not only myself, but for my readers as well.

Although similar to Regret:

It differs, in that a person feeling regret focuses primarily on the personal choices that, contributed to a poor outcome, while a person feeling disappointment focuses on the outcome itself.

Psychological Results:

Can vary greatly, while some recover quicker than others.

• Stress
• Depression
• Frustration
• Blame
• Health

I have often found myself in situations in life, where I have set my expectations based on others and their accomplishments, I must say that many times I did so, I found myself in disappointment.

I have often found myself in situations in life, where when I made a mistake, I blamed others for the actions I decided to partake in, many times, I found myself in disappointment.

I have often found myself in situations in life, where others and their judgmental words, or actions, led me to believe that my actions were wrong, although I was happy, many times, finding myself in disappointment.

I have often found myself in situations in life, where what others told me what to expect, never occurred, or did, and still I can remember times of disappointment.

But I must say, that when I didn't know exactly what was going to happen, when I didn't worry completely about planning every detail, when I gave the space and opportunity for life to take its course, gave equal balance between my thoughts, and others, I never found myself in disappointment....


This being said:


I must reiterate, that I do believe I am speaking for everyone with the examples I have set forth above.


By no means am I saying it is easy or even possible to avoid disappointment, but I am saying that it is possible for one not to understand what the word means, its emotion, or its root cause(s).


For one to understand and see what disappointment is,

• One must define the word for them self.  
• One must have the ability to shy away from opinions when trying to do so.
• One must understand who they are.
• One must understand where they are at.
• One must understand where they want to go.
• One must understand where they want to be. 

Disappointment can destroy the best people, it can make the optimist seem frail, it can make the doubter seem afraid, but everyone will have to face it, deal with it, live it, or die with it.

Disappointment can cause you to make the wrong decision over and over again, if you do not, understand the root of where it comes from.

Listen to your thoughts.

Live, Dream, Love, and Die Happy...

All this is possible with the understanding of a word that is often misunderstood.

disappointment


Truthfully...

MK '12

Live Unlimited. My 15 Steps.

To those that want to live unlimited:

• Know who you are...

• Believe in yourself...

• Learn to love everyone... 

• Speak your mind, all of your thoughts...

• Learn how to respect yourself...

• Learn to be patient...

• Understand there are more ways than one...

• Give others the same chances you want...

• Never worry about things you can't control...

• Remember that it's not who loves you, it's who you love...

• Accept all people, as you would want to be accepted...

• Never give up...

• Never Settle...

• Be honest, but understand that lying is inevitable...

• Don't worry about time...

Truthfully,

MAK 11'

The Emotion of Hate...

I must say it is depressing that I still see people spend so much of their energy, to separate themselves from others.  It is important for us to motivate each other with our differences to come to understanding, and realize that spending energy to make society come together, is what makes the world go round.

Whatever the situation is, believe in me, when i say this.... I promise it is so much easier to love, and not worry about what the other person is doing to you, than to hate, and completely spend a lifetime doing so.  You can easily forget about yourself, what and who you are, and what your dreams and goals in life are...  But on the other hand, your goal and dreams may be to be a destructive force towards the society we live in.  Some people have come to believe that this is the right way to live, that this is leadership, a calling from some religious power, or in other words the only way they have ever been taught.

Please listen...

None of us, were born to believe one person is better than us, we were not born to hate, to be honest, we are all born to love, as soon as were taken out of the womb, we are automatically looking for our mother through scent.  This is love, this is the emotion that we are born with, before any of us are taught, we are all lovable human beings.

So I ask you this? 

Do you still believe that you were made this way?

Do you still believe that this is who you are?

Pause.

Remember that in life, you have a thing called decisions... These type of things allow you to live life, the way you want to live... Despite any setbacks that society has for you, everyone has the opportunity to be happy.

With that being said..

There is not one damn reason, to say you are not happy, to blame others for your hateful feelings, to blame others for your life, to act like one race is over another, to exclude people from your life because you feel you are better, and most of all, act like you are the best.

I want to extend my hand to everyone that is hateful, and tell you something...

I have learned that in life, no matter how much you hate something, there has been a point in your life, or will be a point in your life, that you have or will depend on something that you hate, or feel love for it, or them.

Break this hate, break this silence you have caused yourself.

Break the path of destruction.

Break this path of self hate you cause yourself every time you look in the mirror, and realize you dont know who you are any more...

Because I promise you one thing....

Society will defeat you!

Love will win...


Truthfully,

-MAK 11' 

The Beginning and Ending of An Expected Chapter...

To begin..


It has been one thing to talk about it, another to actually live it.  Only one person can explain feelings... Yourself, Myself. This is what we do best. What I do best.


I want to give you insight into one of the best chapters in my life. That has recently come to an end, and most importantly has once again begun.


Since I can remember, I have always wondered, thought of things in my own ways, along side having my ears and eyes open, to not only see things in my life, but to listen, and observe what I can one day experience, change, and tell.  I was always propelled forward in life, by only a few people, most importantly my Father, which has granted me the opportunity to see life, in ways many have not.  I have never struggled, in the field of love, or having a roof over my head to live, eat, and enjoy life. This is all thanks to him.  For he has allowed me to see life, and create my own Moral's, theorie's, experience's, and most of all the way I love.


It was at a young age that I started to admire my education.  Although I must say, there were many times, that my own discipline was not enough to stay on track. I needed to be pushed from all sides of the spectrum. But there was much missing. 


There was something never there.  Something that most people take for granted, a piece of life that most people never have to worry about.  "FAMILY" ... This is not to take away from my father, but most importantly to shine light on every person that was supposed to care, that never did.  This certain notion of emotional feeling I had towards this missing love, kickstarted a feeling in me that would forever change my life, and make me the person I believe, is who I am most happiest to be.


To explain in the fewest words...


To not have the people that are supposed to love you.. Not love you, Not call on you, Not show you their keys to life, or grant you the same opportunity they would have wanted if they were in your shoes..... "Goes to show you that in life, nothing is supposed to love you"..


As I sit here, looking back at the past 22 years of life...


I have never found true love in someone that is supposed to love you, matter of fact, those are the people you should avoid. As most of the time, they have to love you, because of what society tells them to do. That is my eyes is not true love, that is not what I want, to be loving me. I want someone... I want someone that love, because they would love too.


So I end with this..


As this chapter of life started, I saw many roads to take, I Heard, Witnessed, and Listened to much of what everyone told me, offerred me, and took from me along the way.


As I walked across that stage Thursday, to receive my degree of a higher education.


It was just a friendly reminder...


That the love you have for yourself, carries you much further than any love you will ever receive from someone else.


That the love from the people that are not supposed to love you, is the love that you think about during moments that change your life.


That it is not who loves you, It is who you love. 


And for that..


I Love You All!!


To~ My family and friends. 




-Mak Dec. 11'